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Maybe we should factor in that shit will always happen in our lives? Maybe that’s how we can free ourselves from anxiety and anger?
If your assumption (expectation) is that there should be no mistakes, failures, disappointments, painful moments, fuckups, bad luck, sudden change of plans, illnesses, broken promises, betrayals, lies, cheating, meanness, ill will, animosity, repulsion, cowardice, selfishness, vengeance, hate, envy, aggression, egotism, trickery, etc. you will be pissed as hell.
Sometimes you will be pissed at yourself, sometimes you will be pissed at your family members or friends, sometimes you will be pissed at random strangers.
And sometimes you will be pissed because you will not know who it is you should be pissed at.
That’s when you have the ludicrous expectation that none of it should happen. Or to put it differently, when you don’t understand life. When you’re being delusional.
Maybe assuming that these things shouldn’t be part of our lives and trying to avoid them at all costs is like trying to withstand the laws of physics or nature?
Maybe it’s like trying to stop a wave from hitting the surface of the sea, or a rain from being wet?
No wonder we’re pissed. It can’t be done.
Whereas expecting that certain amount of it is bound to happen whether you like it or not (say 30%), and that probably not a single week will pass by without you having experienced some of it, will make you more at ease. You will understand the absurdity of trying to stop a wave from hitting the surface of the sea, or a rain from being wet. You will stop being delusional about it.
That’s something I figured out recently, tried it, and it works like magic.