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My son’s classmate lost his shoe when they were running in a relay race today. They came in fourth.
Had he not lost his shoe, had he listened to his teammates who advised him to run in different shoes, or had someone else run instead of him, their team would have won, my son concluded.
Simple, isn’t it? Create a scenario in which the thing which prevented you from succeeding / achieving a better result hadn’t occurred and you can predict the outcome.
Or, can you? Maybe all you can do this way is fool yourself.
Why is it that almost always when we analyse our failures or fuckups, and when we managed to figure out what went wrong, we automatically assume that from the trillion possibilities (alternative scenarios) the one most favorable to us would have played itself out?
It’s our lunacy (or we can call it our wishful thinking) that causes us to assume it. Can’t we see how everything is always perfect in these alternative scenarios? How the whole universe is suddenly on our side and acting in our favor (at the same time ignoring or hurting the chances of others)? As if we were entitled to something?