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It’s hard to find adult and old people who never told their children or grandchildren things like “When you’ll reach my age you’ll understand how right I was”, or “One day, when I’m gone, you’ll remember these words”.
Of course, what they mean by that is that you, the unexperienced person (or a person with significantly less experience), will most certainly have the same view on life and draw the same conclusions. In other words, you will realize that your old mother or father was right.
They believe so (and want to continue to believe so) because other scenario (a lack of validation) will mean that they not necessarily were right, that they not necessarily understood life, that they not necessarily did everything right in their lives. And they are freaking scared of such scenario. And those who are not scared (those who say that they’re not scared), simply don’t realize that the fear is in them. It’s the fear of the possibility of being deprived of their foundation.
But there is a good news for every old person, and they somehow know it already. That’s the beauty of it for old people. They can die hoping that the younger person will finally say that the old mother or father was right. Why? Because the younger person will always be from a younger generation. The gap will persist. Hence, in any case it’s possible that 10 or 20 years later (after the old person is long gone) the younger person will admit that the old mother or father was right. Nobody can take that (this hope) from the old person. Which means that they will always be able to calm down by saying to themselves that the time will come. And even if it will never happen (of which the old person will not know, but assuming that he or she could), he or she can always say that the younger person died too early to realize it, or that he or she must have been too dumb, an anomaly or something.
If they say things like “When you’ll reach my age you’ll understand how right I was”, or “One day, when I’m gone, you’ll remember these words”, it means that they guard their foundation. They’re scared that someone from a younger generation could find a new way of living life, a new life philosophy (which could be as good or even better than the one they espoused).
How else can one explain their shutting off when someone from the younger generation offered them his or her different point of view or a different life philosophy? They don’t want to be polluted by it. They want to be able to live the remainder of their lives in peace. They don’t want other philosophies. They don’t want doubts. In other words, they want to be able to stay in their comfort zones, and believe in the reality of the world which they created in their own heads.
They don’t want to be polluted by younger people’s shit (life philosophy, lifestyle, opinions, etc.), but they don’t see anything wrong with their wanting to pollute younger people’s minds with their own shit. And because they’re old (older) they automatically assume that it’s fair. That, as a rule, polluting the minds of people from younger generations by old (older) people’s shit is (should be) allowed and that there’s nothing wrong with it, and that it obviously means that the old (older) person wants only the best for the person from the younger generation, and that doing the reverse — polluting the minds of people from older generations by young (younger) people’s shit is not (shouldn’t be) allowed, and that there is obviously something wrong with it (that old people should be allowed to live in peace — which means that one shouldn’t reveal to them their ideas and opinions, if they could disturb the peace of this old person).
This is not the written law, but such is the expectation in most cultures.