On being a father | 769
I don’t give a crap if my family can brag about me

Your 40s and 50s are your peak income years. Oh yeah? Says who?

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I’m in my 40s. Early 40s. Your 40s and 50s are supposed to be your peak income years. That’s the way things are for the majority of people. The brainwashed ones. The ones who, in their late teenage years and early 20s, figured out what they wanted to be when they grow up. The ones who treat life as a race against their high school peers.

That’s the way things are. That’s the truth. The peak income years exist. We are able to say (predict) when people will earn the most in their careers. That’s what’s supposed to happen.

I’m not in that majority. I don’t play this game. Which means I don’t believe in peak income years. I don’t give a crap about peak income years.

Just like I don’t believe in, nor do I give a crap about needing to figure out what you want to be when you grow up.

Just like I don’t believe in, nor do I give a crap about needing to keep up with the Joneses (or the Smiths, or whatever you call them). I don’t give a damn what my high school peers do in their lives. I don’t watch them, I don’t follow them. I ignore their successes. Which means that I also ignore their failures. I pay zero attention to what they do with their lives. Because I don’t believe that life needs to be a success story. I like when it’s a story. Just a story. A story with all kinds of moments. That’s what life is. That’s how I view it. That’s how I choose to view it.

Just like I don’t believe in, nor do I give a crap about growing up. Growing up for the majority of people means that you will become like the rest. The rest of brainwashed people. That’s why being normal is easy, and being a weirdo isn’t.

Just like I don’t believe in, nor do I give a crap about retirement. I don’t give a crap what the retirement age is. I don’t plan to retire. Why? Because I don’t have to retire. I can choose not to. Retirement isn’t mandatory. Just like being something your family could brag about — it also isn’t mandatory. You don’t owe it to your loved ones to become the thing they’ll brag about. Really! Becoming it is also a choice.

No one can force me to play that game. No one will force me.
It’s because I know that we play it because we choose to play it. We don’t play it because there is no other option. That’s a lie. We do have a choice.

I call it freedom. The name of my game is freedom.