When to reassess your situation and ponder your options?
The importance of having a time to think

Breaking the most common thinking pattern

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It opens your eyes when you reassess your situation and ponder your options.

The thing is we tend to view ourselves in a certain way after we’ve been doing certain things for a while. We’ve been in a certain field for a certain amount of months or years, we will think that it’s the only thing we can do. A lawyer will look only for job openings for lawyers, a banker will look only for job openings for bankers, a teacher will look only for job openings for teachers, a plumber will look only for ways he or she can make money doing what a plumber does. And so on and so forth. Very few people will break this thinking pattern.

Similarly, we’ve been out of work for a certain amount of months or years, we will think of ourselves as the unemployed. We’ve been living on the streets for a certain amount of months or years, we will think of ourselves as the homeless crowd.

That’s what we do. We pigeonhole ourselves and it means that other options are no longer available to us, practically speaking. Of course, they’re there, but not for us.

Especially when we do something day in and day out and it kinda works. There is something to do and there is money. A certain comfort zone starts to exist.

But it also happens a lot that people have this mindset when they don’t have anything and money is not coming in. Usually someone will say I can’t find a job. And people will answer And you worked as what? or What it is that you do (did)? or What is your profession?

Able-bodied people will then sit at home and become hopeless and miserable because they can’t find a certain job — the job they used to have, or the job they’d been trained for, or where they have experience.

Of course, they will argue that a job they hadn’t been trained for, or where they have zero experience is impossible to get, because everybody wants people who know what they’re doing, in other words, who know their craft. That’s not true. People who can’t do something can learn to do it, and somewhere there is always a chance to be that guy or gal who will learn the craft. But they assumed that it’s not for them. Besides, who would want to start from scratch? It’s unthinkable for the majority of people. How will they look? Plus, they don’t want to start something new, because they’re convinced that sooner or later they will get a job in so called “their field” and that’s where they should be. So they keep looking, and keep looking, and keep looking, and then months and sometimes years go by and they keep looking. And they keep telling themselves this convenient lie that it’s impossible to get a job without some kind of a diploma or / and experience.

They waste time, they earn nothing, and they waste the opportunity to try something new, and to test themselves in something else. And that something could even lead to passion.

The same is true when you have a certain source or sources of income (not necessarily something you treat as your career). When we notice that things start to deteriorate (or are not satisfactory) we tend to look for ways we could improve the situation while staying in the same pond (in that comfort zone). We need a much stronger impulse (like losing the ability to do a certain thing, or a dramatic market change — things no longer work the way they used to, robots replaced human beings, etc.) to consider other options. In other words, it’s always easier to keep doing the shit we’ve been doing and we tend to prefer easier solutions. And we usually convince ourselves that it’s the best thing — sticking to something you already have and working on it. What if that’s not true? What if there are other (better, smarter, easier) ways to make the same amount of money or even more? What if you could do both?